Divorce Proceedings

Arrest for alleged harassment of estranged wife?
In September of last year I posted a question on this site for the first and only other time 'I was arrested for allegedly harassing my estranged wife. Shouldnt I have recieved a caution first?' I was amazed at the instant feedback, it was as if people with nothing better to do were sitting there waiting to give their responses to questions. Some of the answers were intelligent eg by the mofo and champer, some were just plain nasty and imbecilic including one by a person telling me to enjoy my time in prison. another said I shouldnt have done it in the first place and another said it was pathetic to complain. Yet they didnt know i'd even done it, just that i'd been arrested. Nice people. A year on and with a little time on my hands I now wish to put the record straight. My wife of 25 years and mother of my 3 children (who all sided and stayed with me) had seemingly a massive mid life crisis and ran off with an old boyfriend she hadnt seen for 28 years who with his own marriage failing had contacted her on 'friends reunited', arranged to have a coffee with her and then after no doubt being knocked out with how she looked for her age wooed her again behind my back. Its true actually. I shouldnt have 'done it in the first place'. I shouldnt have in the terrible mental that i was in, devastated and heartbroken, texted my wife, written love letters to her and went to tallk to her as she walked to work one morning. It was the last event that led to her going to the police and I was subsequently arrested for harassment. Because i thought i had done nothing wrong I didnt ask to see a solicitor and when interviewed the police and or CPS said i had made an admission. When it went to court my solicitor said to me "Its very sad. It wasnt really harassment, it was just your pathetic attempts to win your wife back. But you made an admission so you've got to plead guilty". So I did as he said and pleaded guilty though it didnt feel right and that was that. A conditional discharge and a restraining order not to contact my wife for two years. That expires in March 2012 but my wife need not worry, i'm never going to utter another word to her in my life. And I might write and tell the stupid magistrates that. All this has done is make me stronger and realise as all my children tell me that she isnt worth it. I dont think i should have got a criminal record for what was in essence still caring about my wife. I think the advice from my solicitor to plead guilty may not have been right. Despite starting divorce proceedings against me when she first left me nearly 3 years ago now my wife still hasnt seen it through. So i have just recently started divorce proceedings against her because i have eventually come to realise that there can be no way back for us after this madness.

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I want to move on with life but my wife isnt...?
I have been having a tough time dealing with my divorce. We had problems in our marriage and I tried to make it work but my wife used to threaten me that she will leave n file for divorce since my family is conservative. We have been living in US all thrut he marriage. She went to India and both families decided to convene to sort out the differences. I was arrested with my parents as soon as I landed in India (yea it was 498A). We compromised and I brought her back to US. SHe started to threaten me after we came back to USA. Her threats made me suspicious and I sought legal opinion and was advised to file for Divorce in USA and I did so. SHe then threatened me stating that if I dont give her 50L she wud make my life a living hell. I dont have 50L to offer. She did receive notice n hired a lawyer and when she found out that she is not getting much money in USA she fled to India and filed Domestic Violence case against me n my parents. She filed an injuction case in India to stop divorce proceedings in US. Finally after 1 yr of struggle I got divorce in USA and now she has filed for Restitiution of Conjugal Rights in India. I have been patient all this long try to workout a solution for this whole thing and now frustration is creeping in. Any guidance or advise is appreciated? Will I be stuck with her? After all these lashes I dont thinking I can forgive her and accept her. I want to move on with life because SHIT always happens in life.

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divorce - can she have my new home and her own?
Hi - I am in England. I have been separated from my wife since early 2010. I no longer live at the matrimonial home which was a rented property. I am now buying a house and my new partner will live there but the ownership will be mine. My STBX inherited a property from her father a few years ago which is her asset. My question is will she be able to have any claim on my new property during the divorce proceedings given that she already has a property of her own of higher value than mine will be. And if so will I be able to make a counter claim to her property (I don't want to but if she can take from me I need to make sure I am not left destitute whilst she still has her own property and half of mine) Thank you. thank you for the answers so far. i will of course be consulting a lawyer as soon as i can find one who doesn't charge £22 per letter and £10 per email!!! what I do know however is that everything is NOT fair game and this is an area riddled with ambiguities which is precisely why I am asking the question. so I am not as stupid as one juvenile suggests. Besides I am not so much seeking legal advice here but interested in the experience of others who have been through this. Thank you to the rest of you who have given helpful (grown up) replies :)

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