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Child Custody Court Hearings - What to Expect at Your First Custody Hearing
Nothing puts a knot in the pit of your stomach in quite the way the way that going to a custody hearing at family court does. One of the most frequent questions I see is "What should I expect?". Well if you haven't been there or your last experience was bad, then you will want to spend some time educating yourself about what happens and how you should both prepare and act.
Unless you are nearing the end of your court journey and heading to settlement conferences and the like, you will normally have about 15 minutes or less. Excuse me, but that 15 minutes is for your hearing, not the amount of time that you get to speak. By the time the judge speaks, your ex speaks and then you get to have a say you're looking at about 5 minutes.
So your life and your child's fate all comes down to how you spend your 5 minutes. Think about that for just a moment. You have so much to say and if you put yourself in front of a total stranger for 5 minutes, do you think they would see your side? Maybe. And now let that total stranger get 5 minutes with the ex telling them what a horrible person you are. What do you think will happen? Most people aren't optimistic at this point. I mean how are you going to possibly explain all of the ugliness that your ex can put out in 5 minutes?
So now that you're convinced no possible good can come from this hearing, let's look at the title again. "What to expect at you first custody hearing". You see the scenario above is what could happen if you don't prepare. But what would happen if we did things a bit differently.
Take the case of a man I just helped prepare for his hearing. He was terrified that his ex was going to leave the state with his child and he would not be able to see her. You see she had remarried and was going to relocate to a military base. This wasn't a threat, this was a foregone conclusion. He was desperate and knew that arguing wasn't going to get him what he wanted.
He was right to be scared and absolutely correct that he would not accomplish anything by arguing. So what I did was taught him to focus his 5 minutes on the issue of his case. No matter what the ex accused him of or how she tried to change the conversation, he was to bring it back focus on not moving his daughter out of state.
When the court date came mother made some rather awful allegations about father and when the judge asked father what he thought of them, father responded, "these issues have no bearing on this motion". The judge agreed and chastised mother. After that it was all downhill for mother and all uphill for father. They were ordered to evaluation and father was awarded temporary custody in the event that mother should need to move before evaluation was not yet complete. You see, what you need to expect is that the court will hear what you have to say. So choose what you want to talk about and focus your 5 minutes.
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Has anyone settled a divorce/child custody WITHOUT a lawyer?
Not going to bore anyone with my story..but has anyone done the divorce papers/legal separation without legal representation? I just don't want to get screwed is all. TIA!
Great! Thanks! We have divided our assests and are currently discussing the child custody. I spoke with a lawyer already and he told me about filing myself. Just curious if anyone had much success with that one. Thanks.
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How are men supposed to view women as their "complements" or "equals" when women treat them like the enemy?
As evidenced by:
1) their lack of living by the Golden Rule (i.e. expecting things from men they don't want expected of themselves)
2) treating men as potential rapists with a guilty-before-innocent mentality
3) pushing for more unfair laws which hurt men's quality of life (divorce, child custody, e
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do all judges handle all types of cases?
do all judges handle all types of cases?
I am trying to figure out the probability of getting the same judge that orded our continuance 3 months ago. from what i see online there are 10 judges in the building and only 4 on the same floor that we were on last time
would we most likely end up on the same floor?
and do all judges handle all types of cases such as family ( divorce, child custody etc) criminal ect
or are certain judges assigned to family and others to criminal etc
i do have a lawyer but its the weekend and i am just curious
my ex made a fool of him self yelling at the judge last time so im just curious what the chances are of having the same judge.
if it helps im in texas in travis county
from the website i see there are 10 civil court judges and only 4 that are on the 5th floor ( we were on the 5th floor last time) so do you think i would have a 1 in 10 or 1 in 4 chance
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